For so long in my businesses and my career, I felt I had to do everything myself. I believed it would take too long to explain and I could have done it myself in that time. I believed that somebody else couldn’t do it how I wanted it to be done and I’d have to do it all over again. And even worse? Sometimes I wanted to take all of the credit. Not to feed my ego but because I didn’t value myself. I needed the validation for my self-worth.
It’s no surprise that this is totally unsustainable, but so many of us know this and continue to work 24/7, adding more to our own plates. We don’t want to let people down, we fear saying “no” will lose us opportunities and we let ourselves stay in this situation where we can’t or won’t let go of something that no longer needs us. Yet as I discovered in my previous job, you can give your all to something and never be appreciated. So you have to put yourself first and know your value and add tax.
My mum (who is actually part of the SP team) reminds me of this all the time – in order to manage anyone or anything, you need to manage yourself first. That means putting self-care to the top of your to do list.
Be honest with me right now, what’s your work/life balance like? How much of the ‘life’ part is about prioritising time for YOU?
The other day I sat down and sketched out two pie charts – one of how my balance looks today vs one of how I want my balance to look. It’s come a long way since I expanded the team, took on less clients and made ‘purposeful’ ‘intentional’ ‘patience’ and ‘healthy’ my words of the past few years, but there’s still a long way to go.
I put some activities on there that I used to love but have neglected and I’m using them to influence my decisions moving forward so I can show up for my clients, my team and those I love.
Whatever feels true to you, whether that’s travelling, working out, meditating or spending time with your favourite people, make more time for it by not just acknowledging that you don’t have to do everything yourself but by taking those steps to make it a reality.
So what’s the ONE thing you can do today/this week/this month/this year to put yourself first?